Mother-in-law is too much nagging and intrusive?

i have been married for the last two years..we lived in my mother-in-law 's house for the first year..it was a nightmare that i would never like to relive ever..she always disliked my husband spending too much time with me or publicly holding my hand or showing little signs of affection towards me....she used to get upset sometimes when he would tell her that he would be taking me out for dinner or movie(complaining that he could have asked his mother also )..i pulled on because my husband told me that it is a matter of a few days only(actually right from the beginning his mother has been very posessive and strict about him..and he always did whatever she commanded)then my husband moved to another city wid me to pursue a course in management..me and my mother-in-law are having a very strained relation since the last 3-4 months..we r not on talking terms since then..occionally she calls up my husband and talks only to him as if everything is normal..tells him about all the happenings in the extended family..she is ignoring my very existence completely ..she is a big time diplomatic person and i am quite straightforward..she has been showing her miserable side to other relatives (how i have made her son distant from her and how her son has changed since he got married to me)...with the result all these relatives keep on calling me and my husband ..they have even abused me ..they shout at me over the phone..blame me for destroying the family ties and telling me how irresponsible daughter in law i am..i had my 2nd wedding anniversary yesterday and their phonecalls ruined it all!!!i feel like crying my